Unless You're Dead! So Let's Live!

Confidence is learned, unless you are dead. This is where everything comes together and Joseph Moniot in this book makes it clear that even the least confident person in the world grows through experience. We must first be willing to fail to learn while rewarding the successes as we learn.


Visualization of what you want to accomplish will help you develop the willingness to take risks, and fails in order to then succeed. Learning how to stay open minded, through better listening skills will help us maintain a good balance between humility and pride.


Joseph Moniot has been training in martial arts since 1993. He holds rank in Kyuki-Do, TaeKwonDO, Judo and JiuJitsu. Under the guidance and support of Grand Master Lloyd Holden, he became the Chief Instructor at AKF Martial Arts of Delavan Wisconsin, and a year later he became the owner of this school. He operated this AKF school for twelve years while maintaining a full-time career path outside of martial arts. In 2013, Joe sold this school to one of his black belts. This school later became additionally successful as it’s ownership transferred to Master Bjorkquist and Master Holden.

In November of 2013, Joseph was asked to leave full-time employment outside of martial arts and become a full-time martial arts school operator. He moved to Lexington, Kentucky and under the supervision and support of Master Rick Steinmaier began running and building AKF Lexington Martial Arts. In March of 2015, Joseph purchased the school and has operated it ever since. In June of 2016, he employed his first employee to assist with the growing school. In June of 2017, he married Stacey Moniot who immediately stepped in and became an integral part of daily operations. Together he and his team are dedicated to motivating everyone they come in contact with, to work toward and achieve their best life for themselves, their family and their community.

Joseph Moniot

Unless You're Dead! So Let's Live!

Even the most confident person you know has learned to be confident. Being born more confident than others may be a factual concept in one way or another, but every person learns confidence. From confident to super confident or from shy and reclusive to bold and empowered one thing is true. Confidence is learned. In this book you will learn:

• Experience Creates Confidence
• Setting and Meeting Goals
• Recognizing Achievements
• Visualization to Succeed

How you learn, learning from our experiences and even helping others can be excellent vehicles we use to increase our confidence. Improving our confidence means we also make better decissions, choose better friends and generally live happier lives. This sounds good, doesn't it!

Let's explore confidence in you!



Francisco T

"So proud of my son. He has been working on this form since Oct. He lacked confidence and REFUSED TO try doing it on his own. It was hard to watch as a mother. I tried everything I thought was right to get him to believe in himself. We were doing tournament videos tonight after class. Tonight he decided that he was brave enough to do his form by himself. He said HE BELIEVED he knew it. This is a far from a perfect tournament video. What is captured here is a child that gained confidence in himself. These are the lessons we learn in class. Martial arts isn't about kicking ass and looking cool. It's about testing yourself, determination and overcoming obstacles. In this school you are winning by overcoming obstacles and fears. 100% Effort is winning and not perfection."

Rebecca Crawford

My son started at AKF when he was in 6th grade and in the past three years his confidence has SOARED! I am so grateful for not only the martial arts skills he has learned, but also the leadership, team building and the relationships he has formed with his instructors and classmates. The instructors have very high expectations for students and also know how to make the class SO. MUCH. FUN!

Katelyn Ratliff

My 5 year old benefits more than he realizes! His confidence is slowly becoming more evident and the skills he is learning to believe in himself even when things are hard is not only helping him in class, but is helping him in all aspects of life! I love how inclusive this company is and from the very first time meeting the instructors it felt as if they have known us forever. They really connect with the kids and are truly a gem to have to our community!